Oh, For Crying Out Loud!

I guess I have observed one or two things about human nature over the years. Specially a sickening display of male chauvinism just today at lunch.

I was in Trinoma with Mike eating the second half of my tuna sandwhich when I overheard a conversation from a group of guys across our table talking about women like we're all empty headed Barbie dolls waiting breathlessly for our Ken to ask us out!

One of them ( Mr. Hey-Im-The-Man! ) were talking the loudest ~ and was bragging that he could get any girl to go with him to a motel or something, he actually snapped his fingers and said " Anyone I want, just like that!"

The nerve of that guy! He was already convinced that he is a Superior Being destined for Greatness ( Urggh! Spare me! )

If only I had enough courage to face those bunch of airheads, I would've marched into their table and give him a piece of my mind!

But well, there goes my appetite. I stuffed my lunch back into my tray and hurried to the nearest exit and got myself some fresh air! I mean, why would any "sane" girl subject herself to public humiliation for the privelege of dating that neanderthal guy?!

Know what Mike? If I were you.. ~ I wouldn't be so proud to belong to that gender! You've got to admit, that man is a pathetic Looser with a capital "L".

Oh alright, I dont wanna sound as if I wanted to bad mouth men in particular. I should stop myself before I even begin to say something I will regret someday. And next thing I'll know, may mag offer na lang sa akin sumali sa Asusasyon ng mga Kababaihan na Galit sa Kalalakihan! Waha! ^_^

Single .. but Loving it! ツ

A Post VALENTINE ENTRY

When one has to live 20+something years here on Earth with the title "SINGLE" hanging on her neck ~ 0ne accumulates a lot of crap. Not that I consider my life as crap. My lovelife however does.


If it weren't for my bunch of persistent friends who would literally push me to date from time to time, I would have retained my Single Blessedness status. I'm not even sure if I would thank them or not, but oh well .. here's my confession ~>

It's funny anticipating Valentines Day. And now that it's over? I can totally say good riddance! Not that I ever celebrate it. No! I'd be dead in humiliation if I get caught celebrating it with someone. And the month of February? ( to some ~ the Single Awareness Month, maybe because this is the only time of year when you get to ponder on things and realize that you're all alone and single ) would usually get people a little stressed out and some even, will suffer from anxiety attack just because they don't have a Valentines date unlike most of their friends who are on the dating scene. For me, I'm pretty okay to stay at home with my family and let it pass even if I have a special someone, or sometimes I go out with my other "single" friends.


Back to what I was saying about V'Day .. well, it's strange that there's a point of year when you reflect on why you're suppose to have a special someone or why you're suppose to go somewhere and figure who you're going to spend it with. I mean, di bah nman, all summer long we don't really think that way. Even Christmas or New Year, we'd be contentedly sharing it with family and friends and were perfectly fine with it. But during this month, it becomes a tremendous pressure for some folks to have a special someone.


And yet sometimes, after listening to my friends who are "in-a-relationship" and hear their mirthful stories, tears of heartache and even their furrious bellows.. I would still realize that my life were pretty much complete at the moment without a partner.


I admit, there are inevitable moments when I would feel that undeniable longing for a boyfriend. I sometimes pinned my hopes and dreams of having affirmation as a person by being someone's girlfriend. I once put myself in gloom just because I have not yet found "the one". It was like I would almost establish all my conditions for happiness and fulfillment in one elusive, most likely non-existent person. Not only that I fail to see and appreciate the simple joys presented to me everyday, which in the end ~ is what I have to live through whether I have a partner or not.


And so, I went on my search. Many times I thought I finally found that person. And many times I ended up choosing the wrong one.


But my newest realization is this ~ My whole life, I have hoped that I would find someone, and not just a lover who would give me that sense of being loved unconditionally. Weirdly enough ~ I would rather pray for discernment, that having a partner is only one possible part of life to make myself complete and happy. I dont' have to let it become a rule. Finding the "right person" is hard and wrong. Again.. it is best to be the right person for the ONE you chose to love and start from there.


An excerpt from the book I read by Joshua Harris "Self Steem is the beginning of True Love! The lover who is not sure of herself and who does not accept herself as worth loving is incapable of loving trully and maturely. The true and mature love is confident of the value of her love. She knows herself and respects herself to be proud of her self gift."

I realized that no matter how often I tried to work things out on my own, I would still end up disappointed because I set out standards and define the "right person" for myself. It's great when you depend to others for happiness, but then it works the other way too. Sometimes, you have to realize that you can also give yourself that feeling ( of contentment and happiness ) and be able to appreciate it.

Meanwhile, as much as I still like dating. I chose to be Single. I finally became really thankful that God ended my last relationship because I've suffered from too much pain already.

But LOVE? When it comes down to it.. some people say "It's a many splendored thing" .. that True love can wait, is blind and can never be defined. But I say ~ no matter what the defintion is .. A big LET GOD DO THE WORK advice for those who are on their search for it, or even for those who have already found it. Don't rush things, because somewhere and somehow God is preparing somebody for You!

You may call it the "Waiting Time". But while waiting .. ~ PRAY. Let God guide you always. Trust me. HE knows BEST!

It'll come when you least expect it. And who knows? It might come knocking right at your door even before you've asked for it. ☺

I hope that everyone learn something from this foolish entry of mine.

I also hope it brings you my message of FAITH .. and of LOVE. ♥♥♥

Once again ~ HAPPY HEART'S MONTH EVERYONE! ~ Keep Lovin'!

CREED of LIFE

~ Let your love be stronger than your hate and anger. Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend a little than to break. ~

Your life is a reflection of your thoughts. If you change your thinking, you change your life. Accept that you are where you are, and you are what you are because of yourself. If you don’t like it, change it!

Things may go wrong, but life must go on. Tears may run dry, but smiles must be given. And every time you fall, you should always rise… coz this is how God teaches us to be strong.

Life has uncertainties. We don’t know when our time on earth is up ’till it’s over. So take many pictures, laugh much, have a long walk with someone, take time to look up at the stars, eat well, sing your praises, feel the wind, smile a lot and love… because every 60 seconds you spend is a minute of happiness you can never get back.

Even if love is full of thorns, embrace it. For between those “THORNS” there’s a “ROSE” that’s worth all the pain.

Forget about all the reasons why something may not work. What you really need to do is to find one good reason why it will.

It is always a risk to love someone. It involves time, patience, and understanding to get someone’s heart to open up. At times, it will work. Other times, it won’t. But that’s why you call it a risk - you invest in something and there’s a possibility you won’t win. However, you still get something in return: strength of heart and mind, and the assurance that you won’t have any regrets from not trying.

The Simpsons Moment

Let me start by saying, I think the greatest character in The Simpsons is Lisa. I aspire to be like her. Though everybody loves Homer and Bart's great .. and the way Smithers pines for Mr. Burns ~ he's like a little dog just trying so hard to make his master happy is the saddest love story.

I like Lisa's characeter. She's the voice of reason in a family of chaos. I aspire to that, to be a voice of reason one day. I love the counter balance of her being deep and philosophical. She seems someone who is OK on her own. Someone who can handle being by herself and that's the character I've been trying to teach myself over the years to acquire to.

The Simpsons, is to me, probably one of the greatest show in television. It inspires me everytime I watch it. So I knew that if I ever meet Matt Groening, the creator, I'd probably attack him because I have so much love and appreciation for what the show has given me over the years.

A Warrior

"We are hard pressed on every side but not crushed. Perplexed but not in despair. Persecuted but not abandoned. Struck down but not destroyed." ~ 2 Corinthians 4 : 8-9

GOD has been good to me. But I did not realize that until I entered SFC. Even the manner in which I joined it ( i  knew now ) God orchestrated.

I only joined because I was jobless during those times. So when my uncle asked me to attend their first day of CLP ( Christian Life Program ) , I said "why not?"

When I entered the room, full of strange unfamiliar faces and started my very first CLP I was hesitant. Because I never thought I would join such a group, I mean I have to admit, my relationship with God would only limit to attending mass every Sunday.

But with barely two sessions, I assumed I had found the reason. I've discovered why I joined. God gave me such hunger ~ a hunger to serve Him, worship and praise Him for the rest of my life and after knowing more about SFC, I knew I had found the way to satisfy my hunger.

I am now a 7-yr old member of Singles for Christ and I normally join Gawad Kalinga projects in Payatas whenever I have time to do so, and  I believe that every member has been trained for the past 17 years to be such a warrior. To be part of an army that will conquer territories for our Lord. I am priveledged to be part of this army. To be part of SFC.

I am here to stay.